tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post5363844310782908819..comments2023-12-09T02:55:51.216-08:00Comments on Empty Nest Insider: Moving MomEmpty Nest Insiderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-1905568271907324282016-04-20T00:45:53.722-07:002016-04-20T00:45:53.722-07:00I say many thanks to the father of the website adm...I say many thanks to the father of the website admin I read this, because at this website I know a lot of information information that I did not know before his<br /><br /><a href="http://obatlumpuhyangaman.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Obat Lumpuh</a> <br /><a href="http://obatkankerindungtelur.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Obat Kanker Indung Telur</a> <br /><a href="http://obatkencingnanahalamiyangaman.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Obat Kencing Nanah Alami</a> <br /><a href="http://mengobatiherpesgenitalis.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Mengobati Herpes Genetalis</a> <br /><a href="http://obattradisionaldarahkotor.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Obat Tradisional Darah Kotor</a> <br /><a href="http://obatkencingbatuherbal.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Obat Kencing Batu Herbal</a> <br /><a href="http://mengobatikankerprostatherbal.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Mengobati Kanker Prostat</a> <br /><a href="http://caramengobatisistemurinekencing.wordpress.com/" rel="nofollow">Cara Mengobati Urine Kencing</a> <br /><a href="http://pengobatandiabetesherbal.com/pengobatan-antraks/" rel="nofollow">Pengobatan Antraks</a> <br /><a href="http://obatbenjolandileher.web.id/obat-tradisional-benjolan-di-tangan/" rel="nofollow">Obat Tradisional Benjolan Di Tangan</a> <br />aisyahputrisetiawanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03192442695534733153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-16615670291639333212012-06-19T09:04:17.195-07:002012-06-19T09:04:17.195-07:00Times may get rough and we may grow old..but never...Times may get rough and we may grow old..but never will our concern for our folks vanish. I admire and commend you for having a very good and solid sense of family.andrew robertshttp://whatareyouchasing.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-21207964739582364162012-04-16T01:42:01.890-07:002012-04-16T01:42:01.890-07:00Sorry I didn't see this before. It was so nice...Sorry I didn't see this before. It was so nice of you to build your mom a house next door! It's also great that you have already thought about the next step just in case. You are an amazing daughter with a fabulous support system! It sounds like your mom is in good hands, and hopefully she'll continue to enjoy her independence next door for years to come. Thanks so much Jen!Empty Nest Insiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-15227914769210999582012-04-16T00:49:36.357-07:002012-04-16T00:49:36.357-07:00Kathy - It is frustrating when they put themselves...Kathy - It is frustrating when they put themselves at risk by not going to the hospital. Thanks for visiting and good luck to you!<br /><br />Al - You may never go that route, and by planning ahead we can try to make things easier for our children. Our hope is that we'll move into an apartment building within the next five years. That way we won't have to worry about stairs, and we'll cut down on clutter. My mom's story is bittersweet, but the plan was to ease her into it, on her own terms. On the bright side, she's in a lovely place that I honestly wouldn't mind living in myself. Thanks Al! JulieEmpty Nest Insiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-20717196428279783562012-04-15T20:12:50.753-07:002012-04-15T20:12:50.753-07:00I wonder how it's going to be for me and my fa...I wonder how it's going to be for me and my family when I eventually go that route. I won't be a bit surprised if it's like your mom's experience.<br />Bittersweet has already been said, but that's appropriate.<br />Because this is a bitterswet story.Al Penwasserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14052950809151897315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-57791716313255981332012-04-15T16:07:50.402-07:002012-04-15T16:07:50.402-07:00Wonderful post. I found my parents to be incredibl...Wonderful post. I found my parents to be incredibly stubborn about going to the hospital at times when they really needed to. My mother especially. :D Visiting from the A-Z challenge. Good luck with the rest of the alphabet.<br /><br />Kathy<br />http://gigglingtruckerswife.blogspot.com/Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11564863484894692249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-32927329146914414552012-04-14T23:24:14.692-07:002012-04-14T23:24:14.692-07:00Milo - It must've been hard going through this...Milo - It must've been hard going through this with your grandparents. I hope it makes it a little easier with your own parents, but it's still a difficult time. Thanks for stopping by!<br /><br />Kitty - Yes she is feisty! Thanks so much and I'm lucky to have them all!<br /><br />L.G. - I'm sure that you've already taken your mom to the doctor, but it may help if you also bring your dad along with you for a discussion. My mom loves her doctor, and it's a lot easier when we're on the same page. Best of luck with your mom L.G.<br /><br />Thanks so much Manzie, and my mom really is a "marvelous woman!"<br /><br />Valerie - We do for the most part have a "beautiful relationship!" Thanks Valerie, and I forgot to mention that her beauty shop is also only 5 - 10 minutes away! <br /><br />Susanne - Yes I'm so grateful that my sons were so helpful, and still are! My mom is definitely in a much safer place. Thanks Susanne!<br /><br />Super E. - Thanks for the kind words Super Earthling! JulieEmpty Nest Insiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-43903365104126308862012-04-14T23:09:44.168-07:002012-04-14T23:09:44.168-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Empty Nest Insiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-90829839592034966812012-04-14T22:52:41.582-07:002012-04-14T22:52:41.582-07:00Your post was indeed bittersweet, Julie. It seems ...Your post was indeed bittersweet, Julie. It seems very clear to me that you have a strong, loving bond with your mom and your sons. That certainly makes a difficult time and situation a lot easier.<br /><br />And then there are the positive attitudes--yours and your stubborn (in a good way) mom's. <br /><br />It sounds like all is going well and your mom is in a nice environment. You're a good daughter, Julie. :)Susan Bodendo/Super Earthlinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10552499547660991944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-2454794450762356222012-04-14T18:00:31.537-07:002012-04-14T18:00:31.537-07:00Hi Julie, I'm so glad that your mom was not se...Hi Julie, I'm so glad that your mom was not seriously hurt, or worse. What a blessing it was that your sons were there to help out. Thankfully your mother is now in a safer place and close to you and the things she enjoys.<br />: )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-80057902022947776462012-04-14T17:45:43.676-07:002012-04-14T17:45:43.676-07:00I wonder sometimes if it's just so hard to acc...I wonder sometimes if it's just so hard to accept they're getting older. But I loved this post, shows what a beautiful relationship you have with your mother. I hope she's happy now, living close to all the things she loves even if you're not one of the lucky 'five minutes away'. :-pValerie Sloanhttp://valerieksloan.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-44318420924000995712012-04-14T17:40:17.991-07:002012-04-14T17:40:17.991-07:00You treat your Mother well and of course you would...You treat your Mother well and of course you would. She took care of you and kept you out of harms way when you were little. Marvelous women......both of you. I wish your mother a speed recoveryManzanitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06467261212623663365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-14334051905610068122012-04-14T17:36:26.286-07:002012-04-14T17:36:26.286-07:00We're getting very near to this point with my ...We're getting very near to this point with my mother. She has fallen twice, both times hitting her head. Her memory and reasoning are like Swiss cheese now, full of holes. She's lost thirty pounds but still thinks nothing is wrong and Dad is in denial about the whole thing. Sigh. <br /><br />Glad your mother is happy with her location. It really does make a difference, doesn't it?Luanne G. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15762881276976395955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-77784350910679208862012-04-14T16:09:17.882-07:002012-04-14T16:09:17.882-07:00Oh your wonderful mother! What a most feisty woman...Oh your wonderful mother! What a most feisty woman! And what a beautiful family!! I love that you are all banding together to give mum the best care! All the best! xOld Kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13185547869183611159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-88904646141964471062012-04-14T14:04:05.416-07:002012-04-14T14:04:05.416-07:00We went through this stage with my grandparents, a...We went through this stage with my grandparents, and I'm sure my own parents won't be too far behind. All part of our life cycle, right?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-91365424138899864372012-04-14T12:16:45.440-07:002012-04-14T12:16:45.440-07:00Thanks Lynn!Thanks Lynn!Empty Nest Insiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-74390312094126739532012-04-14T12:16:04.249-07:002012-04-14T12:16:04.249-07:00Yvonne - It wasn't easy for either one of us, ...Yvonne - It wasn't easy for either one of us, but I'm glad she won't have to worry about the stairs anymore. Thanks Yvonne!<br /><br />Thanks Youmna!<br /><br />Delores - Hopefully, we'll be able to make things a little easier for our children. Just keep up with your healthy eating, and you'll stay strong for many years to come.<br /><br />Bushman - Wouldn't you rather they stuffed you and kept you propped up in your favorite chair in front of the TV? <br /><br />Talli - It is still hard for her, but there are so many advantages to being in her new environment. Thanks Talli and I'll tell my mom another hip redhead said so!<br /><br />Yvonne S. - So true Yvonne and thank you!<br /><br />Susan - We moved some of her favorite things over and added just a few new pieces that she needed. I was so worried that her old bedroom set wouldn't fit, but she assured me that it would, and she was right! Thanks Susan!<br /><br />Libby - Sorry things didn't turn out well for your grandmother. I was very proud of my boys, but I probably shouldn't have put them in that situation. Thanks, I thought it was pretty funny when she said it too!<br /><br />Mshatch - Sorry that your mom broke her hip. My mom was extremely lucky that she didn't break anything after her falls. Hope your mom is doing well now.<br /><br />Thanks Alex and it is a huge relief!<br /><br />Tonja - It's a combination of pride and ambulances are expensive too. It could also be that he just didn't want to wait. In my mom's case, she was still in her robe and wanted to make a good impression. In both situations, it would've been better to have taken an ambulance or gone with the fire dept. <br /><br />Elaine LK - I'm sorry that you had to go through all that. Dementia is a horrible illness, and it sounds like your mom is in the right place now. I will definitely come over to your site over the weekend. Thanks so much Elaine!<br /><br />Mary - I highly recommend doing your research now. There are couples living at my mom's place who come and go as they please, yet they still have all of the added benefits of meals, and a nurse and pharmacy on staff if they need it. I would like to live there myself! Thanks Mary!<br /><br />Elaine (Retired Knitter) - Let me thank you for the tremendous compliment of calling me a "sister caregiver." Throughout the years, you and your husband have done more for your mother than most children do in a lifetime. I remember that your mom lived with you for years, and you went back and forth between hospitals and nursing homes, before she recently moved in an assisted living community. I also remember how difficult it was for you emotionally, and you never complained. It also came down to your mom's safety, and you were concerned about the stairs in your home. Anyone reading this should go back and read your wonderful series. I hope your mom is doing well, and once again I will say how lucky she is to have you. Thanks Again, Elaine! <br /><br />Lee - I remember you mentioning before that you were going through a similar experience. Maybe your mom could also try a "respite stay" somewhere for a month or so to ease her into a retirement community. That way she could move into a furnished place with housekeeping to test the waters. Good luck to you and your mother Lee!<br /><br />Julie - I'll tell my mom that you liked her picture, and my younger son has caught up to my older one in height. They were 13 and 16 at the time. Thanks so much Julie, and it's quite a relief that she is in a safe place now. Hopefully, your parents will continue to thrive for many years to come, and they're lucky to have you and each other! JulieEmpty Nest Insiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-14964358565368229982012-04-14T12:06:11.108-07:002012-04-14T12:06:11.108-07:00glad things are okay nowglad things are okay nowLynn Proctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16349867270815243053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-7652835194328331272012-04-14T12:03:47.104-07:002012-04-14T12:03:47.104-07:00I have my mom living in the house next door. Becau...I have my mom living in the house next door. Because we have a very large piece of land we could build her house right on our property when she was younger and more mobile. <br /><br />Now she's in her mid 80's but doing well. Like your mom her walking and balance are becoming a problem but so far thank the Lord not falls. <br /><br />We have a plan in place however for her to move in with us if need be. We would just have do do a bathroom renovation and split our gigantic downstairs bathroom into a private handicap bath for her since it connects to her room, and make the front of that bathroom a powder room with access for the main part of the house. <br /><br />Mom and I have an agreement that she'd stay with us,and as much as assisted living is such a good option for safety and socialization I frankly see so many positives in it but sadly my mother would never go.<br /><br />Glad things worked out with your mom! Her and the boys look great in the picture btw!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10204165708189660644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-68985296090602036192012-04-14T10:43:56.674-07:002012-04-14T10:43:56.674-07:00I love the pic of your mom with your sons, what a ...I love the pic of your mom with your sons, what a sweet picture. <br /><br />I had to laugh at the ending of the story! But I'm sorry for all you went through to get your mom where she is now. My parents are elderly and it can definitely be a draining situation. I'm glad your mom is in a safe place now.Julie Flandershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05003737491313673214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-84690474861407577622012-04-14T09:38:41.616-07:002012-04-14T09:38:41.616-07:00Going through this same period in life, hearing th...Going through this same period in life, hearing the same objections from my mom, having the same heart-racing trips to find out if this fall was serious. Glad your mom is safe now and that she's happy with her new place. I still have more convincing to do, so wish me luck.cleemckenziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15456109243453726483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-48670359644246696302012-04-14T09:07:51.465-07:002012-04-14T09:07:51.465-07:00Oh, my gosh, I can identify so much with this! In ...Oh, my gosh, I can identify so much with this! In fact my A-Z is on this very subject, except that my mom has demential. I love this line: "There are too many old people here." That's my mother exactly! It started for her with a bad fall, too, while she was still living in her house. She wasn't seriously hurt in that fall but was found to have a UTI, which made her even more confused, and we were told she couldn't live alone anymore. We tried a regular assisted living for a couple of weeks but she was so miserable I had to take her out. Eventually my husband and I bought a multifamily house and moved her in with us. Last year she fell again and broke her hip. She had successful surgery but wouldn't or couldn't do the physical therapy afterward. She's in a wheelchair now. She couldn't come back to live with us, so we found an assisted living with a dementia unit for her. This time she couldn't protest, and she's doing well now, is safe and well cared for. It's a real struggle when our parents get to this stage, but we can only do our best and do what we know is best for them. My blog is at elainelk-tealeaves.blogspot.com. I'd love to have you visit.ElaineLKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00866201775130742517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-13757344127523255322012-04-14T09:06:39.696-07:002012-04-14T09:06:39.696-07:00Oh my dear God. This post could have been written...Oh my dear God. This post could have been written by me - word for word. The names of the people may be different, but the path taken to get them into care that is absolutely necessary was almost the same. <br /><br />I did a series of posts about my experiences with my mom ... called Through My Caregivers Eyes ... on my own blog. If you ever feel alone - or why is this happening to us - check me out. We are "sister caregivers."<br /><br />Thanks for your post.<br /><br />Retired Knitter<br />www.http://mynext20yearsofliving.blogspot.comRetired Knitterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13662288640032813770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-62239283421452835372012-04-14T08:33:12.178-07:002012-04-14T08:33:12.178-07:00Great post. I'm trying to convince my husban...Great post. I'm trying to convince my husband presently that we need to seriously think about assisted living now. He's not buying it yet.Mariodacatsmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06040681324029176934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-31862318269600867662012-04-14T07:29:22.588-07:002012-04-14T07:29:22.588-07:00Why won't they just go in an ambulance?! My s...Why won't they just go in an ambulance?! My stepdad had a stroke and wouldn't go in an ambulance so my mom drove and they waited in the waiting room for hours instead of getting immediate treatment. What's so scary about an ambulance?Tonjahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08652479946102909276noreply@blogger.com