tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post9152860714181467986..comments2023-12-09T02:55:51.216-08:00Comments on Empty Nest Insider: What Do Couples Talk About After 23 Years?Empty Nest Insiderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-2944075424366547472012-11-27T18:33:47.370-08:002012-11-27T18:33:47.370-08:00Robyn, We always talk in restaurants, though somet...Robyn, We always talk in restaurants, though sometimes it's hard to hear each other over the chewing!Empty Nest Insiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-57203896152101706612012-11-27T17:51:02.459-08:002012-11-27T17:51:02.459-08:00Yes, that's what girlfriends are for. I see a ...Yes, that's what girlfriends are for. I see a lot of couples at restaurants, for example, who sit in silence throughout the meal. On one hand, it seems odd. Then again, when a couple knows each other so well, they don't always NEED to talk - especially if one of them is a man.<br /><br />xoRobynRawknrobyn.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15997241410192066577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-45832910843868204922012-11-27T09:30:53.152-08:002012-11-27T09:30:53.152-08:00Carol - A "gifted conversationalist," an...Carol - A "gifted conversationalist," and a handyman?! You found a winning combination Carol!<br /><br />Lynn - I've noticed that too, but I think that's the case in many situations. I'm always repeating myself with the kids too hoping that something will eventually sink in.<br /><br />Julie - It is pretty funny especially because I am always late. Fortunately, he's extremely patient and has a great sense of humor. Thanks Julie! <br /><br />JulieEmpty Nest Insiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-79827382498678210782012-11-27T07:59:12.365-08:002012-11-27T07:59:12.365-08:00I'm glad you posted this again, Julie, I don&#...I'm glad you posted this again, Julie, I don't think I saw it the first time around and it made me laugh, especially about the Timex. Your husband's obsession with time cracked me up LOL LOL. Fun post! :)Julie Flandershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05003737491313673214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-47651056719656714002012-11-27T07:44:31.759-08:002012-11-27T07:44:31.759-08:00we have been married for thirty some years and we ...we have been married for thirty some years and we still talk quite a bit----and a lot of it is the same thing over and over :)Lynn Proctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16349867270815243053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-39682475329019776412012-11-27T07:21:59.983-08:002012-11-27T07:21:59.983-08:00Live-In Handyman and I talk about everything under...Live-In Handyman and I talk about everything under the sun. He is a gifted conversationalist. The only downside is I don't get to listen to as much music as I'd like because we're always involved in a conversation. I wouldn't trade :)Carol Kilgorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03745686632918324803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-12352701798134974712012-11-26T21:47:21.433-08:002012-11-26T21:47:21.433-08:00Thank YOU Gina!Thank YOU Gina!Empty Nest Insiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-88983111106697268022012-11-26T17:35:56.177-08:002012-11-26T17:35:56.177-08:00Thanks for posting this!
www.modernworld4.blogspo...Thanks for posting this!<br /><br />www.modernworld4.blogspot.comGina Gaohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09032273127593718883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-59357534460813007132012-11-26T11:38:27.726-08:002012-11-26T11:38:27.726-08:00Maybe if you got involved in an activity together ...Maybe if you got involved in an activity together it could spark some conversation. For example, we go for long walks which is a relaxing way to find things to open up about. At this time of year, an outing to a museum might be nice, or even a good movie with a discussion afterward.I'm sure you'll find something that works best for you Yvonne.<br /><br />Julie Empty Nest Insiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-49120476326391629252012-11-26T08:25:32.580-08:002012-11-26T08:25:32.580-08:00This made me feel a lot better. It seems like ther...This made me feel a lot better. It seems like there is a lot more quiet than their used to be. I need my husband to talk. We do once in awhile but not for very long. Yvonne Stephensonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14604335434167862809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-15053529598662550152012-11-25T22:16:37.220-08:002012-11-25T22:16:37.220-08:00Bushman - Nah, I'm sure she just likes to mult...Bushman - Nah, I'm sure she just likes to multi- task! I can't imagine you ever being boring Bushman!<br /><br />Susan - Did your parents let you get married when you were still in grammar school? Of course one-sided conversations still count! BTW, we met just a few months later during A to Z that year. Thanks Susan!<br /><br />JulieEmpty Nest Insiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-88392309781565302252012-11-25T21:06:54.845-08:002012-11-25T21:06:54.845-08:00Thanks for posting this again, because I wasn'...Thanks for posting this again, because I wasn't in the blogosphere yet when you ran it the first time. We've got 43+ years in now, ans while we don't have as many all-night long gabfests like we used to, I'm pretty sure we beat the ten minutes by a pretty safe margin. (One-sided conversations count, right? HA! Just kidding...)Susan Flett Swiderskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09425315552148200073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-8718132225222172552012-11-25T16:27:43.364-08:002012-11-25T16:27:43.364-08:00I can talk to my wife of ten years all night long....I can talk to my wife of ten years all night long.....so long as it's via text! I must be incredibly boring. She never puts that thing down!Bushmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17578478269526006557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-27807566014916471232012-11-25T13:24:34.526-08:002012-11-25T13:24:34.526-08:00Talli - It's good that Mr TR is so chatty. Th...Talli - It's good that Mr TR is so chatty. This way he can spend hours talking to Baby TR, and give you a chance to rest.<br /><br />Rhonda - Yes he enjoyed it very much. I also can mimic their voices, so I try to provide a theatrical presentation. I'm sure you had great conversations on your trip around the world, and will continue to have them for years to come.<br /><br />Al - Surely you find time to talk while she's fetching your slippers, and drawing your bath.You are after all polite.<br /><br />Sherry - Don't worry everything will be fine. If not, there are always board games!<br /><br />JulieEmpty Nest Insiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-73092246842993463622012-11-25T11:26:01.609-08:002012-11-25T11:26:01.609-08:00Is this what I have to look forward to? LOL!Is this what I have to look forward to? LOL!Sherry Ellishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07844837212122243321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-62762653382384173372012-11-25T05:12:46.689-08:002012-11-25T05:12:46.689-08:00What? We're supposed to talk?
Ohhhhhhhh.........What? We're supposed to talk?<br />Ohhhhhhhh........that explains all that noise she's making.<br />JK<br />;-)Al Penwasserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14052950809151897315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-66111231573991322892012-11-25T04:59:13.822-08:002012-11-25T04:59:13.822-08:00When we were traveling it was easy - although it u...When we were traveling it was easy - although it usually involved money. Just curious, when you reported the phone call, minute by minute - did he like it?Rhonda @Laugh Quoteshttp://www.laugh-quotes.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-1746345431021840402012-11-25T04:44:24.093-08:002012-11-25T04:44:24.093-08:00Haha! This made me laugh, because I don't mind...Haha! This made me laugh, because I don't mind silence at all while Mr TR can talk up a storm for hours! It actually works quite well...Talli Rolandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04780882465745107715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-87276895500140996382012-11-25T01:35:23.170-08:002012-11-25T01:35:23.170-08:00Shannon - I agree that silences are only awkward w...Shannon - I agree that silences are only awkward when you make them that way. Thanks Shannon!<br /><br />Hilary - I also find these studies amusing, and try not to take them too seriously. Very well put about " no point setting the world to rights all the time." Thanks Hilary!Empty Nest Insiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-21238936972504988132012-11-25T00:52:51.594-08:002012-11-25T00:52:51.594-08:00Hi Julie - I think that's probably right .. it...Hi Julie - I think that's probably right .. it's the security/safety aspect of being happy and together - any problems can be discussed - there's no point in setting the world to rights all the time .... just enjoying being together and sharing all things - love the thought of a roast served on a Timex!! Cheers HilaryHilary Melton-Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596532480645510678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-34774065777844473432012-11-24T21:22:30.553-08:002012-11-24T21:22:30.553-08:00Haha, for their girlfriends. I've been marrie...Haha, for their girlfriends. I've been married 16 years, and while we can still hold a conversation, we are perfectly happy sitting quietly together, maybe trading a remark or showing a snippet from online. Silences don't have to be filled, and that's what those couples have learned after 50 years of marriage.<br /><br />Shannon at <a href="http://thewarriormuse.com/" rel="nofollow">The Warrior Muse</a>Shannon Lawrencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934641808195675935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-19357310794964310022012-11-24T20:05:34.267-08:002012-11-24T20:05:34.267-08:00L.G. - Hey, you don't want to talk with your m...L.G. - Hey, you don't want to talk with your mouth full. The worst is when you see couples who are playing on their cell phones during their entire meals. My older son has mastered sneaky under-the-table texting, so this will never be a problem for him. <br /><br />Yolanda - I also look forward to when the football season is over, but then there will still be basketball and baseball. As long as he still gets some exercise in between games it's okay with me too. It's nice how you're able to tune out now and then. I think I'll try it sometime.<br /><br />JulieEmpty Nest Insiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-38932167827130501342012-11-24T18:25:57.409-08:002012-11-24T18:25:57.409-08:00Well, now that the election is over, and we are ta...Well, now that the election is over, and we are talking again instead of arguing -- it's all about -- wait a minute I have to go upstairs and ask him. He's into 24 sports now and our conversations are -- oops -- nonexistent!<br /><br />But that's okay, whenever he wants (maybe once since we married) to talk I'm always writing, lost in an imaginary world were talk is never the problem. I can't hear a word he says. :)Yolanda Renéehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09085436784133103221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-8708013450565989992012-11-24T18:25:30.877-08:002012-11-24T18:25:30.877-08:00Before I was married I used to look at couples in ...Before I was married I used to look at couples in restaurants who didn't talk to each other and think, "how sad." Now that's me, and I'm kind of okay with that. By dinner we've already used up our ten minutes of conversation for the day, and all we want is something to eat. :)Luanne G. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15762881276976395955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7345934324603392493.post-22752483156945865262012-11-24T18:21:30.944-08:002012-11-24T18:21:30.944-08:00Ruth - So it's obviously working for your pare...Ruth - So it's obviously working for your parents. I'm sure that you and your husband will be happy for many years to come.<br /><br />Tamara - I think that there's a happy medium and you've found it. Snuggling while watching TV is the best. There is such a thing as comfortable silences, and when things start becoming uncomfortable there's a problem. Here's to another 25 more wonderful years together!<br /><br />Pat - As long as your cat is a good listener, you've got it made!<br /><br />JulieEmpty Nest Insiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10074223969046687064noreply@blogger.com